Solution Focused Coaching

I shouldn’t feel this way

While things might seem stable and settled, you’re always in transition of some sort. You transition from sleep to waking, from work and friends to family, from peaceful and quiet to loud, chaotic action.

By all appearances, your life looks pretty good. But inside, you sometimes feel like you just want to scream and yell at someone or hit something. You often feel angry even with people you love and everything around you.

Or perhaps your life isn’t stable and settled at all… inside or out. Feeling stuck and not knowing what to do next is a horrible feeling. You thought you had a roadmap from point A to point B to point C, etc., finally reaching a wonderful, satisfying future.

Well, the destination time is now, but somewhere you took a wrong turn, and this life is not what you had in mind.

The goals and dreams you had seem further away than ever. And the transitions – whether chosen or forced on you – have caused anxiety and confusion.

Questions – Confusion – Fear – Uncertainty

The questions get bigger and bigger, and you try to handle them yourself. Things seem to get better for a while. Then, suddenly you’re back in that awful state of doubt and confusion.

You fall asleep at night. Then at 3 AM, you’re wide awake, worrying, and questioning. Questioning your actions and decisions, wondering if you said the right thing or did you offend someone. Why aren’t you happy?

You might look for someone to blame for your current situation, but you suddenly realize you’re unhappy with yourself.

You’re angry because you can’t seem to fix this, and you’re tired of trying. You never feel like you’re enough – smart enough, attractive enough, accomplished enough. You make sure you look like ‘more than enough’ to others but inside is that constant struggle of wanting to be different…  better… more.

Coaching is the answer

Actually, coaching helps you find the answers you already have inside you.

First, we dig deeper and discover why you feel stuck, confused, and less than. You’ll be amazed at what we uncover. You’ll connect with past events and how they’ve impacted your life more than you imagined.

And then – I will help you completely remove the thoughts and beliefs that have held you back. You’ll experience clarity you’ve never known before.

Together, we will create strategies to keep you strong and confident. As your coach, I’ll use some skills and methods I’ve studied and experienced over the years. Adding a little wisdom to our conversations, things will start to make sense, and confusion will be gone… forever.

Let’s shine a light on your new, bright future

You will see things from new perspectives. Clarity will prevail, and confidence will increase. The encouragement and support you need will be provided, and new possibilities will lift you.

Let’s work together to create the compelling future you have always imagined. Let’s find your voice and celebrate as you move forward in new ways.

Contact me today, and let’s create your path to a brighter tomorrow.

What if you could solve that problem or change that behavior faster than you ever thought possible?

Solution Focused Therapy is focused on future hopes rather than a current problem story. We harness your strengths and resources to make effective, significant, permanent change. Many don’t know there’s a quick, more efficient way to reach a life-changing hope or goal.

Many therapy approaches begin with asking “What is the cause of the problem”? That may be irrelevant. A more pertinent question might be “What maintains the problem”? What keeps it active?

 And then we ask, “How do we create solutions”?

 The process assumes the belief that there are solutions…most likely more than one. Together, we construct or invent solutions by first defining exactly what you want – not what you don’t want. We might touch on what’s not working only to conclude what to do differently. We look at what’s working and expand on that.

Often much time is spent assessing and diagnosing problems to try and find an intervention that interferes with the problem. You might talk about the problem over and over – every little detail. This keeps you living in the world of the problem. But, if we focus on hopes, wishes, resources, and joy, you get to live from that perspective. This changes everything. Life feels so much better from that viewpoint. Hope is the biggest change factor and this approach starts with that as the foundation.

Often known as Solution Focused BRIEF Therapy, its effectiveness has proved to match (and often exceed) with other therapies but is usually quicker. Who doesn’t want to solve problems or change things as quickly as possible?